When I was about 13 I read an article in Cosmo about how friendships are the most difficult relationships to keep. I think that was the last time I read a Cosmopolitan magazine, I slowly started to become a feminist and could no longer relate as I once did. Despite my break up with what is still a sturdy publication, the overall message of that article has resonated with me.
Friendships are the hardest relationships to keep because you have no blood ties, so you probably don’t have to see them at important holidays, birthdays or religious celebrations and you have no romantic or legal ties so the fear of a messy divorce and a broken family aren’t looming over you. Not to mention friendships have no quick fixes, with family there is an unwritten doctrine that deems that love to be unconditional and with a significant other, a natural physical pull often serves as a quick blanket to solving quarrels. When it comes to friendships, what is the quick fix? I honestly don’t think there is one, so how do you maintain a relationship when good sex and blood ties aren’t on the table? We ask our readers what they think is the most important factor in maintaining lasting friendships.
Jenya from Switzerland says the key is: Honesty
I met Yulia my first year of law school when she became my tutor. She was also my older brother’s tutor, I guess Geneva is really small. This is us at my brother’s wedding this summer.
Nabil from Kuwait says the key is: Communication and honesty
I met Fahad when I was walking by at university and this hoe I know told me he had a three some with his sister and he’s gay. I laughed and called him a hoe out loud. He came up to me the day after and I told him he he was a hoe, because I heard a, b and c. He denied it, we spoke and turns out we had friends in common. We got to know each other and ever since we’ve been tight and we literally feed off of each other’s energy.
Chioma from Nigeria says the key is: Open communication, trust and loyalty
Faudel and I met in Florence, Italy. I was there as the US participant in the Kennedy Human Rights Institute training program on international human rights protection mechanisms. I arrived after sunset in the gorgeous city of Florence, settled into my accommodation and began to explore the city. I was looking for authentic Italian pizza and pasta and Faudel recommended a few places. He helped me the entire time of my stay, is dependable, loyal and trustworthy and even though there were language barriers, we worked through our communication with humour and he has always had my back and I have his even long after I left Italy.
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